Twenty

So i watched Twenty with my all-time korean movie buddy aka Cheyenne.
LOLOL made it just in-time for the 4.05pm one at Vivocity and gdi, i dropped my phone while running cos Cheyenne kept rushing me ;-(

Originally i wanted to watch this because of the 3 main casts duh ( Lee Jun Ho, Kang Ha Neul and Kim Woo Bin) HAHA with no prior knowledge about that this show was about but i ended up really liking this movie. Cos it's freaking funny LOLOL i laughed till my tears came out oh god.

Some of the funniest moments :

• When Kim Woo Bin wanted to sprinkle chili spices into the bad guy's eyes but ends up sprinkling into his eyes too

• How you hit on a girl, literally

• And how to deal with it

• When you realized you've made a huge mistake

• When your parents doesn't give you your allowance

• How to push the blame in slow mo version

Really recommend you guys to go watch it !!

Till then, xx.

"It will be well worth the wait, I promise."

  7 Lessons You Learn When You’re The Perpetually Single Friend

By : Tabitha Blaisdell

I have always been a late bloomer to love. When my friends first started dating as teens, I was the one stuck fantasizing about my first celebrity crush, Jesse McCartney. Don’t get me wrong: Jesse McCartney was — and still is — a babe, but as a 16-year-old, I felt secluded from a whole new world that my friends had already entered.

Of course, it wasn’t their fault that boys weren’t interested in me (or that I was interested in all the wrong boys) but this didn’t stop me from developing a bruised self-esteem and feeling unwanted, lonely, and confused. Thankfully, I grew out of these feelings and by the time I was 18, I became used to always the token “the single friend” of the group. 

The single friend sometimes gets a bad rep, a reputation that is mostly created by ourselves, but also enhanced by others. Singles often throw themselves pity parties or have pity parties thrown for them. We are victims of bad blind date set-ups and being the third wheel. But as a loyal member of the single friend committee,

I’m here to remind you that there’s a lot more you can learn from being the predominately single friend than you may realize. So lets stop victimizing ourselves as the single friend and instead LEARN from it.

Here are 7 things I’ve learned as the single friend, hopefully they will help you, too.

1. There’s no better way to figure out what you want in a relationship than having the time to figure yourself out first.

I’ve achieved a great understanding of my personal relationship goals by becoming more in touch with myself as well as witnessing the dynamics of my friends’ relationships. Being a witness to their relationships has given me a better idea of what I’m willing or not willing to put up with in a relationship.

2. No one is immune to loneliness.

But when you’re single, those lonely feelings are harder to fight off. As the chronically single friend, I naturally spend a lot of time alone. However, instead of letting those feelings overwhelm me, I’ve learned to enjoy my alone time. I’ve pursued many passions and interests on my own. I’ve sat at tables for one for breakfast, lunch, and dinner and have learned to make do through very cold winters.

This strong sense of independence not only gives me more confidence but it will also help me when my single status (hopefully) changes. It’s no secret that all successful couples need to know how to spend time apart. I believe by my next relationship, I will have conquered the ability of spending time alone. And because of this, I won’t be a Stage-5 clinger or a smotherer, because I crave my alone time and NEED my own space.  

3. Take your own advice.

As the predominately single friend, I’ve been my friends’ relationship speed-dial and have given out large amounts of advice to them whenever they’re in need. My advice is good since I can look at their problem(s) through an objective perspective.
Oftentimes my friends could have come to the same conclusions on their own — but they didn’t because they didn’t know how to step outside of the situation they were in and silence their emotions long enough to come to a reasonable conclusion.

However, since I’ve always been on the outside, I believe I have extra insight. The advice I’ve given to them is engrained in my mind and I’m certain it will assist me in resolving similar issues I’ll inevitably experience myself.

4. Never compromise your self-worth.

There are many times my friends have come to me telling me horrible things their significant other did or said to them. Naturally, I react with sympathy toward them and anger toward their partner. Along with my angry and sympathetic words, I always tell them the same phrase.. “You don’t deserve that.” While I attempt to repair my friends’ confidence, I remind them of their good qualities. I make sure they remember how beautiful, smart and wonderful they are and to not let their partner make them feel like anything less.

This is not only a vital and empowering reminder for them but for me, too. By reminding them of their self-worth, it simultaneously reminds me of my own. My friends are all beautiful, intelligent, wonderful women — and so am I. I know that by taking these thoughts with me into a relationship, I won’t allow myself to accept the kind of treatment that is not acceptable to me. I’ve learned how to be the same kind of friend I am to them to myself.

5. Never prolong your unhappiness.

Although I’ve been single the majority of my life, there was a guy whom I briefly dated last summer. Being that he was my first boyfriend, it was exciting to relish in my new relationship status as a taken woman. However, the relationship quickly turned toxic. I was being mistreated and my first reaction was to alienate myself from my situation and deny reality.

I spent weeks justifying his behavior but at night I would cry into my pillowcase uncertain about what to do. It was less than three months in but I felt stuck. Finally, I found the strength to end it. It wasn’t easy and I’m not going to pretend I wasn’t a wreck over it. But in the end, cutting ties with him was one of the smartest and empowering decisions I’ve ever made.

I didn’t think I had it in me. I thought I would allow my emotions to be played with, that I’d spend a long time allowing this man to pull me on his string. I’d be lying if I said that contact ended the day I broke up with him but I’m not when I say that was the day that I realized I shouldn’t be with someone who makes me unhappy. It may sound obvious but many times ending the wrong relationship isn’t as easy as you may think. However, once you realize how much happiness this person or situation is taking away from your life, it makes cutting the cord a HELL of a lot easier.

6. The blame is never just one person’s fault.

I’ve seen several of my friends play the blame game in their relationships. They’ve been quick to assume a relationship issue was entirely their partner’s fault. Being the one who is often presented with my friends relationship problems, I’ve analyzed the issues from both sides. There have been times when I agreed with them completely and times when I called them out on overreacting or being ridiculous.

My experience with my friends’ relationship issues will remind me to try to remain level-headed rather than jumping to conclusions. Through the experiences that I have encountered with them, I’ll better recognize when I’m overreacting or being absolutely ridiculous.

7. Never put your life on hold for someone else.

Obviously, relationships are a lot of work. You have to make personal sacrifices. But as a witness to other relationships, I’ve realized there are things I will never give up — or even consider being asked to give up. Even without the experience of being in a long-term relationship, I know that a good and respectable partner won’t ask me to give up everything (my career pursuits, my relationships with others, etc) in order to be with him.

When one of my friends was having problems with her husband, she told me “I gave up everything for him. I wasted so much time being here for him that I don’t even know what I’m doing or where I’m going with MY life.” I could hear the resentment in her voice and can only imagine how unfulfilled she felt. It was a striking revelation, one that will resonate with me for a long time. I look at her situation and it has allowed me to evaluate what sacrifices I’m willing to make in my future relationships.

I can’t predict the future — but I do know that I will not make sacrifices so large I’m incapable of living a meaningful life along with my partner.

We must remember that being single isn’t a prison sentence. Sure, you do your time (and at times it may feel like a long, 10-year sentence of loneliness), but unlike prison, you have unlimited freedom and opportunities. And these opportunities allow you to learn important lessons about yourself that will be beneficial to bring into your loving relationship(s) in the future.
It will be well worth the wait, I promise.

From : Thought Catalog

Till then, xx.

" You need someone who you don’t want to change, simply because who they are is more than enough. "

  Be With Someone You Don’t Want To Change

By Jessica Dentith

 
For a really long time, I was under the impression that it was normal to try and change the person you love.

See, there would be so many things that I loved about someone …but then there were other things that I did not care for. Things that I did not want from a partner, so naturally, I thought they should no longer do them.

Wrong.

I’ve learned that when someone shows you their true colors, you need to believe what they are showing you, accept it, and either move forward or move on.

When someone says they don’t believe in marriage or having kids (but you believe in both), understand that this person may have many qualities that you love, but you are both on different pages. It is not your mission to try and sway their perspective.

When someone hurts you physically, mentally and/or emotionally, you have to understand that this is who they are. They can swear up and down that they will change, that they would never hurt you again, but actions always speak louder than words. It is not your job to stay with someone because of the potential they have or the person they could be. Recognize who they are in that exact moment and accept the fact that this is their character.

It wasn’t until recently that I had this epiphany of sorts: be with someone you do not want to change.

Why? Because I have stumbled upon another human being that I do not want to change in any way, shape, or form, simply because I genuinely adore everything that he is and everything that he stands for.

We want the same things. We are passionate about health and fitness. We are family-oriented, both wanting marriage and kids in the future. We have the same mannerisms. We have the same morals. We laugh at the stupid stuff. We can be silly in once instance, and then serious the next. Fundamentally, we are on the same page about the stuff that is important to us.

And because of that, we just work. It doesn’t take much effort. It’s care-free, easy, and genuine. For the first time, I am not trying to mold someone into this image I have in my head. Instead, I am accepting him for everything that he is in this current moment in time and loving every minute of it.

His little quirks that he gets embarrassed over have become my favorite parts of him. I don’t want him to ever be someone he isn’t just to make me happy. I want him in every form: happy, sad, cheerful, mad, etc., without apologies.

I am not saying this is the person I will end up with in the end. But I am saying that this person brings out a healthier version of myself and represents a relationship I am proud to be a part of.

You need to be with someone who makes your life easier, not harder. You need someone who you can laugh with, cry with, and do everything with.

You need someone who you don’t want to change, simply because who they are is more than enough.

From : Thought Catalog

Till then, xx.

Blessed

Well yeah, my birthday was like 2 months ago (it's on the 27th of April in case you don't know haha)
You might be wondering why i didn't post about it like how normally people would ?
Initially i didn't think of writing a post about this because i thought that my birthday is just like any other day. Yes it's my 18th birthday, an important milestone in my life but nevertheless i still think that there's no need for it. But somehow, i feel like i should; because i should express my gratitude to my friends who made the effort to celebrate my birthday for me.

To my clique : Thank you everyone (some of you weren't present but it's okay!) for making the effort to spend their day with me because i know how busy all of you were.
Yup your surprise did really work HAHA because i really thought that i was just gonna spend it with Isabel alone. I wasn't expecting the rest of you to turn up and with gifts too.

It may be just a simple birthday celebration but i'm really thankful that majority of you turned up and made my day. Here's to many more birthday celebrations with all of you ;-)

To my poly clique : Thank for making the effort to make my birthday celebration fun with all the dares before i could actually get to my birthday present *inserts moon face* Thanks for making my poly life more bearable because at least everyday, i would be able to have something look forward to.

(Pardon this picture pls)

To the 2 faggots (In case you don't know who yourselves are : Jeryn and Yangqin) : Thank you to you both for the gift card and also (as much as i don't want to say) for making my poly life more bearable too with all of your shootings and jokes.

(My parents doesn't really like taking photos so i guess this shall make do )

To my family : THANK YOU FOR MAKING ME TREAT Y'ALL ON MY BIRTHDAY (oh god so much love for y'all)
Yeah and their reason was "you should thank us for giving birth to you and bringing you up so well; if not you wouldn't be here celebrating your birthday."

To my other friends : Really really appreciate your birthday wishes and gifts even though we may not meetup really often. I was really shocked too, at how y'all could still remember my birthday.

To be very honest, i'm someone who doesn't like attention. I'm not the type to hold a birthday party for myself, invite a lot of people and make it as big as possible. I'd prefer a quiet celebration just with my close friends.

Thank you all for accepting me for who i am and tolerating my nonsense for years and HAHA many years to come ;-) I've always been really bad at expressing my feelings but deep down i'm actually really thankful to each and everyone of you.

Till then, xx.

" You Should Date A Girl Who Doesn’t Need You. "

You Should Date A Girl Who Doesn’t Need You

By Heidi Priebe

Date a girl who doesn’t need you because she’s already happy with herself. She’s the one with a tightly packed schedule and a life overflowing with love. She’s the girl you find it tricky to meet up with but who gives herself fully once she’s there. She listens fully when you speak. She answers promptly when you call. She does not waste your time playing petty games because she knows where her priorities lie. She doesn’t need you to complete or fulfill her. She’s simply looking for a partner in crime. 

Date a girl who puts herself first. She’s the one who knows that two halves do not make a whole and that nobody can fill in for what she’s not. She admits that she is still a work in progress and she fully understands that you are too. She’s the girl who’s always working on herself because she doesn’t want to be loved to completion – she knows she has to make herself whole.

Date a girl who doesn’t need you because she’s already comfortable alone. She will not turn to you for constant reassurance and she doesn’t need to go fishing for compliments. She values your opinion but she doesn’t require it. She wants your advice but she doesn’t always take it. She listens to your thoughts but she does not mistake them for her own because she already knows who she is and what she stands for. When you date a girl who thinks independently, you’ll learn from one another in ways you never thought to expect.

Date a girl who doesn’t need you, because she’s not afraid to ask for help. She values all the ways in which you’re different and she doesn’t need to prove things out of spite. She likes that you are strong in some of the places where she’s weak. She likes that she is brave in some of the places where you’re scared. She knows that you can help out one another without it bleeding into co-dependency, so she leans on you whenever she needs to. And she lets you lean on her too. Date the girl who knows how to trust you, because she learned to trust herself first. 

Date the girl who doesn’t need you because she’s the girl who will inspire you to aim higher. To go further. To take risks you’ve been too afraid to take because you weren’t sure if they were something that you were capable of. She’s the girl who doesn’t pit her own successes against yours and who will be the first to clap for you when you win. You should date the girl who doesn’t need you because she understands that you need to go after what you want – and that happiness comes on your own terms. 

Date a girl who doesn’t need you because she is the one who’ll be the best to you. She’s the one who’ll try for you, who’ll go the extra mile for you, who’ll put in the effort to understand you at your best and at your worst. She won’t let jealousy or bitterness become her. She will not hold grudges that don’t need to be held. She does not ask you to be more than you are or than you’ve promised because she loves you for exactly who you are. And she wants you to love her that way too. 

Date a girl who doesn’t need you because she’s going to want you like nobody else. She’s going to show you a love that doesn’t ask, does not demand, does not beg you to be changed or revised. She’s going to want you with unforeseen strength and she’ll entice you with incredible passion. Date a girl who does not need you because nobody else is going to love you quite the way that she does. And it’s the kind of love that’s damn well worth waiting for.

From : Thought Catalog

Till then, xx.

Isabel

Dedicating this blog post to Isabel, a friend and a sister for 7years and counting.
7years with you has been really enjoyable and i hope this will continue for many more years to come.
Yes, you'll be away from us for quite a while but i'm pretty sure our friendship doesn't end here. Each and everyone of us will be waiting patiently for your return during your school breaks and then finally that year where you've completed your studies in Aussie ;-)

Isabel's birthday celebration x farewell party

 And that day where we were all dreading came..

Sending Isabel off to Aussie
Woke up really early to meetup with the clique to send Isabel to Aussie. We were all really tired but we didn't complain at all because it's worth it.

 " True friendship isn't about being inseparable. It's about being separated and nothing changes. "

Have fun while you're in Aussie bel ! Take care too !
We are all going to miss you so much. Till we meet again :-)

Till then, xx.